My Tribe

Confession: I am not much of a fan girl, but this guy, I will wait in a line to get my picture taken with him whenever I get the opportunity (and Tom Fraire happily takes the photo 😊).

I met Ed Dailey at Gold Retreat when he was not “such a big deal” no lines, just yoga on the rooftop of the hotel at sunrise with about four others. Since then, I’ve continue to follow and be inspired by his messages and teaching on wellness and nutrition on social media.

He is recovered from cancer. He did this by living better, meditating, eating well, supplementing, surrounding himself with the right people, and moving intentionally.

He is an RN, RNPA, and an RYT (Registered Yoga Teacher) and a YL Ambassador.

What stands out most for me about Ed Dailey is his passion for humanity. He stated, from the stage, that it pains him to see the condition and health of humanity. He challenged us all to care deeply for one another for the benefit of a healthier world.

Unexpectedly, while waiting in line to have this picture taken, a woman near the back of the room began choking. Another woman alerted him to the situation and he ran to assist. She was already being assisted by another and was fine shortly after. However, he responded. He never paused. He just ran towards the stranger, left a line of fan people, to assist. Once the crisis was averted, he took a few deep breaths, loosened his tie, and returned to meet with us.

The first person to respond didn’t hesitate either. I am unsure whether that person was a medical professional or just a caring person who knew or successfully faked the Heimlich Maneuver.

The choking woman was fine. Startled but cared for and fine.

It’s during those critical moments that you see authentic goodness and the willingness of people to serve others. Mr. Daily and the anonymous YL Member are just two of many amazing servants of humanity at Young Living.

YL Corporate and Ambassasors are comprised of generally unique, God-honoring, people-loving, wellness geniuses, and the members are the most friendly and supportive group of people I have ever experienced. I am honored to call this my company and regularly humbled by its impact on the world.

I spent an incredible week learning, soaking up knowledge, and taking copious notes to share with you! I am deeply impacted by this week and the unique opportunity it is to be part of this organization and its people.

As YL Oilers, we do life together. We handle the hard. We take deep breaths, straighten up, and lean back into the struggle of life and re-connect. Journeys are better when accompanied by the right warriors!

Thank you for being part of this oily tribe! 💛

Gallup Strengths Finder

One of the many interests that I squeeze on my insta-bio is Gallup Coach.

Gallup is an organization that researched the characteristics, traits, or tendencies, that make up people. Gallup calls these elements talents. From research, they’ve discovered that understanding personal talents and growing them into strengths makes a positive difference in performances.

Gallup identified 34 talent themes and once assessed, an individual can see how their talents line up. This knowledge creates awareness. Strengths coaching can produce a personalized performance strategy.

Regardless of the talent themes, each person can develop strengths and improve his/her life simply by doing what they were uniquely designed to do. I coach people of all ages beginning as young as 10 years old.

This coaching design has a valuable impact on work, goal-setting, family-life, parenting, academics, and relationships. In addition, it is great for students, teachers, ministry groups, teams, and businesses.

This type of personal development can make life more meaningful and fulfilling, because clients understand how they best function and then strategize to make contributions to the world around them in a unique and natural way.

The other title on my insta-bio is professional counselor. More specifically, I am a solution-focused counselor who relies on the client to be the expert regarding his/her life. As an SF counselor, I’m simply a guide who helps the client discover what is going well and how to do more of that in life to see improvements. This practice is similar to strengths-based coaching, as it focuses on what people do well instead of working on what they do not.

Perspective changes things!

Personally, Strengths Finder helped me determine how I wanted to spend my life. I don’t live within conventional roles for my professional life any longer. Instead, with my Gallup Strengths Coach, I work to develop a life that makes sense for me and my unique design. Now, my life and insta-bio are full of things I am passionate about and can make a living doing!

Do you live a life you love? How did you make that happen?

If not yet, I would love to help you take the next step! Let’s connect.

Even if…

But God, when You choose

To leave mountains unmovable

Oh give me the strength to be able to sing

It is well with my soul- Even If by Mercy Me

We let our Harmony go today after four days of parvo treatment with no improvement and newly developing sepsis.

As I shared earlier this month, Harmony was part of our dream to help others create a life they love. She was a beautiful curly puppy with a kind heart, who was responding remarkably to training. We loved her immediately and others did too. She even had over 250 followers, after only three days on Instagram.

So, when the parvo test came back positive, I immediately began to pray. I called on every person I knew who would carry a prayer for a puppy and know that she was so much more to us than just a pet.

Harmony fought for four and half days with the best care available. Although this was not in our budget, we knew we had to try and give her a chance to live. Selfishly, I was also not ready to let her go.

With fists clenched, I begged God to let us keep her.

Harmony was part of our dream and sometimes things don’t work out with dreams. This is one of those times. Honestly, it is easy to get angry and to ask why when that which brings us joy is senselessly ripped away.

Still, I know that God is good. I know that He is here with us through it all, and He will be here tomorrow too. Even if, the answer is no or not right now, I trust that Lord knows our pain and is using it for something we can’t see today.

Just moments before the call about Harmony’s decline, I found out my professional state license for counseling had been issued. This was a long and difficult process that was another obstacle for our practice. This victory did not fix the pain I experienced regarding Harmony, but it did help me see that I’m still on the right path.

Eyes on God.

I’m grateful. Even today, a pretty dark day, with sad kids, and abandoned chew toys, I’m grateful. We had enough time to love Harmony so well, that we are deeply heartbroken to have lost her. Love that big is worth having, even if, only for a little while.

Harmony Doodle

You may have seen there is a new furry member of Wander in Harmony Inc.

Harmony was 11 weeks old on Wednesday. She is an F1 Goldendoodle. Which means her mom is a Golden Retriever and her dad a standard poodle.

Harmony has been under consideration for many months now.

See, we lost our 12-year-old poodle a year ago last October. This left a hole in our hearts and made Willow, our black lab, an only dog.

Willow has actually become the best-dog-ever after several years of trying our patience and growing out of puppyhood. So, adding a new puppy to a very stable and entirely potty-trained family was a huge decision.

Here’s the thing. I grew up with eight dogs. Five were German Shepards and the other three poodles. I was an only child until I was six, so these pups were not just pets, they were my pack.

As a toddler, I learned a lot about love from my animals. They were fiercely loyal, kind, and always interested in me. I could get them to do just about anything for a Cheeto. As I grew, they let me dress them up, and they were the best students when we played school. Protection was a natural instinct for them, and several of the older humans learned quickly not to reach for me or try to pick me up in the presence of the pack without careful warning. They were easily the best part of my childhood.

Back to Harmony.

As a therapist-in-training, I am fascinated by alternative therapies that help people heal. This is why oils and yoga will always have a place in my practice. As designed, while interning with an advocacy agency for children, I met a therapy dog. Watching the dog naturally and instinctively work with and love on these children was powerful. To watch the children, respond with smiles, touch, and trust, impactful.

Harmony has a long way to go, but we hope she will have a heart and disposition to tend to the hurting. Willow has a beautiful disposition, but some bad manners and is now eight-years-old. Still, Harmony and Willow began training last Saturday. As I said, we have lots of work ahead of us, but I hope to have two new furry therapists in our office in the near future.

I believe the love and protection of dog has the power to grow and heal hearts.

On a personal note, our family is smitten over our new puppy, Willow has a playmate, and everyone has an abundance of love and sloppy kisses.

Follow Harmony’s training on Instagram @harmonydoodle

Hashtags. What the ###?

Confession. I love hashtags. Social Media took a completely useless symbol from our antiquated telephone dial pad and made it into, well, a thing!

This month, I have been knee deep in a small group counseling class learning/teaching about therapeutic factors. As a bonus, I’ve been observing the masters level students through a one-way mirror, as they work, in a real-life small group, led by one of the professors/therapists.

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Turns out, the popularity of hashtags may actually stem from a therapeutic factor call universality. See, universality is a critical component for establishing cohesiveness and therapeutic processing in a small group setting. It is the process by which people in the group are able to identify and connect with one another. This connection makes problems less isolating, situations unoriginal, and group less scary.

So, hashtags…

What are they? You may be new to social media or just over 30 and don’t understand the phenomenon. Friend, there is no shame in this situation. Listen, I just thought they were cute until a younger person explained them to me.

We use hashtags to identify and locate others in the world who do what we do. If you run #running might appear after a sweaty shot of your in front of a glorious sunrise. You might also add #sunrise.

Then what? Well, you can search for all the photos with the hashtag #running or #sunrise by using the search thingy with the magnifying glass or simply tapping the hashtag. Then, like magic, all the #running or #sunrise or #running #sunrise photos appear in one screen.

Did I mention I adore hashtags?

Your question now might be why do you, Writer, and the other people enjoy the hashtag? Well, my guess is, that it is mainly about connection. We want to know that we’re not alone.

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Hashtags say, “#metoo #Igetyou #Iseeyou #letsconnect #youbelong #livelifetogether #journeywithfriends #neveralone #loveoneanother.”

Do you love hashtags? Tell me more!

“We are not only gregarious animals, liking to be in sight of our fellows, but we have an innate propensity to get ourselves noticed, and noticed favorably, by our kind.”

– William James

My why…

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm‬ ‭139:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I’ve been thinking a bit about my journey to healthier living that began in 2011 and my decision to build a Young Living business in 2013.

In 2008, I had my youngest son. I had anxiety and depression that shut me down most days. It was relentless and the only thing worse was the insomnia and the feeling that I was trapped in my existence.

When I looked in the mirror, I no longer saw myself or anyone I wanted to be. It was long and difficult.

My health was the next to crumble. Weight gain, adrenal fatigue, body aches, and a vague diagnosis with no fix. At that point. I let doctors, who did not know, define what I could and could not do.

But God…

In 2010, we moved to DFW. 600 miles from family, to new jobs, new stress, new bills and the same sickness. That year, Tom ended up in the hospital twice with random unexpected illnesses. Needless to say, we were tired, our marriage was rocky, our finances a mess.

In 2011, in a desperate attempt for relief from my physical and emotional hurts, I found help at the hands of a Chinese Medicine Doctor. I learned about toxins and how eating clean and living clean can heal the body.

I learned to move (whether painful or not). Most importantly, I realized that with every bit of effort in the right direction, small changes were countering the faulty beliefs I had foolishly accepted about myself.

Fast forward a few months, I learned from my childhood friend that Young Living had great products to support my new and evolving toxic-free lifestyle. Essential Oils were the missing link and I began to feel healthier than I ever had.

In 2013, I became a certified yoga instructor, in 2015, I ran my first half marathon with my husband. In that half training, I learned to follow him/Him. Our marriage was healed.

In 2015, I went to an Oola Weekend Conference and wrote down wants, why’s, goals, and how’s, regarding these areas of life Faith, Family, Friends, Fun, Fitness, Finances, and Field (work). With a community of people who were ready to take living to the next level, I developed a plan.

We are now Gold distributors with Young Living. We have traveled, paid off debt, sent our children on adventures, and I was able to leave my job in public education in 2017 and go to school full-time this year (dream come true), all because of the decision to intentionally share wellness with others.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭139:14‬ ‭

My dreams are to continue to learn and grow in understanding about how to empower myself and others to create a life they love! Through my work as a life coach and a therapist-in-training, I hope to reach others who are ready to live better.

We are incredibly grateful for every bit of this journey, even the painful ones.

I share my story not because it’s over, or because I live a perfectly healthy life today, but to say we are not limited to what we think we are or are not.

Never settle for anything you can choose out of your life. Find Joy in that which is not a choice and the journey you will experience along the way!

What is Thieves Clean?

Part of my love of oils is the power they hold to do the dirty work.

Literally.

Thieves Cleaner is a toxic-free cleaner by Young Living. This cleaner is infused with essential oils which make it an effective cleaner while remaining gentle to the humans and the earth.

One capful added to a 32 oz spray bottle of fresh water, will clean every surface in your home. Have a greasy stove or grill that needs a cleaning? Simply, use the cleaner at a greater concentration.

Done.

Mixed with a bit of vinegar and baking soda, you will discover the best smelling soft scrub ever. Great for tough messes, while gentle enough to eat. But don’t do that.

Thieves cleaner can be used on pet bowls, fruits, veggies, yet is still effective on kitchen counters, toilets, floors, windows, and more!

I have a few samples to share with any skeptic today. Want one? Comment here and tell me why you want to learn more about kicking chemicals to the curb. I’d love to show you how. I will start by mailing you a sample of this amazing cleaner.

Be well.

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