Running Lesson- Be Present

I’ve been on a bit of break from writing, but I have been maintaining my runs. Today was a long one, which was six hot sweaty slow miles.

While running, I couldn’t help but list in my mind all of the things that I should’ve done last week.

The Should’ve Done List:

  • Gone to yoga
  • Read more to get ahead for next week
  • Eaten cereal instead of fast food tacos that night after class
  • Drank less coffee
  • Ordered Ningxia sooner
Road Behind

Then, about mile 3, I realized I was categorizing the in the wrong direction. I mean, I can’t go back. How was shoulding on myself a productive use of this beautiful run?

Much of the work I do with clients in my counseling practice involves past events and the regrets that have followed. Some of the work is anxiety about the future often based on past events.

This got me to thinking. If we continue to look back in regret, do we miss the enthusiasm for the good that might be up ahead while simultaneously missing the joy in the present?

What might staying present have looked like instead during those first three miles of mustabatory thinking?

Perhaps…

A Doing List:

  • Observing nature
  • Enjoying a playlist I chose
  • Breathing deeply
  • Mindful gratitude
  • Feeling fine
  • Worship

The irony does not escape me. I do see that I’m currently making a Should’ve List for my Doing List. But hear me out, I am hoping to create more awareness about the present and all it has to offer.

Yoga is helpful but it can become a chore for me especially during busy times.

It is definitely more than asana.

With my wiring, staying present takes practice, grace, and the creation and appreciation of space, time, and opportunities.

I will definitely be on the lookout. Passively of course.

What do you do to stay present?

Road Ahead

Running Lessons- Cross-training

Cross-training.

There is a day in my training schedule that calls for cross-training. Confession- I did not do this well my during training for my last half-marathon. I did a bit of yoga but that was it.

This time around I have included indoor cycling. Last winter we discovered Peleton and I fell in love with the classes, music, and instructors. Specifically, Ally Love. This lady is an inspiration and I find myself thinking of her words throughout my day too.

“Yes or yes?” She asks and this helps me stay on track and not quit even when my legs are burning and my eyes are filled with sweat. Then, later in the day, those same words help me do the things, adult, and get my life done.

Yes and yes, I also realize that this is a bit of a bougie bike, and no we are not rich. But, I felt that investing in something that improves our health and mind was worth it! And, it has been.

As for effectiveness, both Tom and I have felt really good on our long runs, and I have noticed less joint pain. I imagine this is due to the variety of motion I get now in my cardio sessions.

Today, I will be heading out for a run and tomorrow yoga. Funny thing is now that I follow the schedule, I’m not running all the time to train for running.

The goal of cross-training is to improve overall performance.

This got me to thinking.

Everything we do in life is actually cross-training for our other activities. What I learn in yoga I use in life. I breathe through difficulty and stretch myself mindfully to avoid harm. Eating teaches me the power of choice and temperance. Friendships teach me the beauty of connection, sameness, difference, and a hundreds of other meaningful things I couldn’t possibly capture here or maybe not even in words.

This week I’ve been back at school. Specifically, I started a class regarding human systems. From what I’ve learned so far, everything is connected and no action within a system goes without impact.

I’m venturing to say this concept as a construct is the reason for mindfulness in regard to our actions. Or perhaps it’s because of this concept that there is something to for which to be mindful.

See what I did there?

Some might call this overthinking. Gallup Strengths might call this Input and Intellection. Both could be correct.

For me, today, I believe it might be better described as savoring each moment of my existence in this divinely orchestrated universe.

In which types of cross-training do you participate?

Gallup Strengths Finder

One of the many interests that I squeeze on my insta-bio is Gallup Coach.

Gallup is an organization that researched the characteristics, traits, or tendencies, that make up people. Gallup calls these elements talents. From research, they’ve discovered that understanding personal talents and growing them into strengths makes a positive difference in performances.

Gallup identified 34 talent themes and once assessed, an individual can see how their talents line up. This knowledge creates awareness. Strengths coaching can produce a personalized performance strategy.

Regardless of the talent themes, each person can develop strengths and improve his/her life simply by doing what they were uniquely designed to do. I coach people of all ages beginning as young as 10 years old.

This coaching design has a valuable impact on work, goal-setting, family-life, parenting, academics, and relationships. In addition, it is great for students, teachers, ministry groups, teams, and businesses.

This type of personal development can make life more meaningful and fulfilling, because clients understand how they best function and then strategize to make contributions to the world around them in a unique and natural way.

The other title on my insta-bio is professional counselor. More specifically, I am a solution-focused counselor who relies on the client to be the expert regarding his/her life. As an SF counselor, I’m simply a guide who helps the client discover what is going well and how to do more of that in life to see improvements. This practice is similar to strengths-based coaching, as it focuses on what people do well instead of working on what they do not.

Perspective changes things!

Personally, Strengths Finder helped me determine how I wanted to spend my life. I don’t live within conventional roles for my professional life any longer. Instead, with my Gallup Strengths Coach, I work to develop a life that makes sense for me and my unique design. Now, my life and insta-bio are full of things I am passionate about and can make a living doing!

Do you live a life you love? How did you make that happen?

If not yet, I would love to help you take the next step! Let’s connect.

Running Lessons: Grace to Fail

I am recovering perfectionist.

Perfectionism’s greatest accomplice is Pleaser.

Once overburdened about what the world thought of me, I existed mostly to please them- ALL of them. In my confusion, I believed that I was much bigger than I actually was. I believed that when people were cruel, it must in some way be my fault. I believed when I was offended, I had the right to offend; I couldn’t please them anyway. I believed in fairness and thought if I worked hard enough, I could accomplish anything, get anyone to like me (even those I did not like myself), and I was convinced I was in control.

Brokeness has a way of letting the light in- I read this on Instagram- I think. And it’s true. When I was at the end of myself, I encountered a moment with my Creator, where I was urged to put down the things I could not control and to continue doing it everyday for the rest of my life.

The things I could not control…

All. Of. It.

I started running about the time grace to fail began seeping into my life, and my favorite part was and still is the sunrise I witness approaching mile two. It is a simple reminder of how incredibly small I am and just how magnificently grand He is. This revelation changes things- HE is big and we are small.

I even began stopping in the middle of my runs to collect photos of these sunrises for my instagram account @cheskafaith, so I can go to those moments in the middle of a hectic day and find my point of reference.

Knowing I have this grace allows me to extend it to others too. This is actually the coolest part. People are not as scary anymore. I’ve learned, that they too, are simply trying to navigate. Nothing is personal. People on journey sometimes want help with their baggage, and sometimes they do not. And it is all fine. Grace to fail means we can all just be and it works.

I’ve discovered putting things down, extending grace to myself and others, and remaining pleasing, soley to the One who created me for His pleasure, is a practice; it is not a destination- much like yoga. Thankfully, there is joy in the journey, when there is grace to fail.

I wish you many sunrises.

Sunrise

No soldier in active service entangles himself in the affairs of everyday life, so that he may please the one who enlisted him as a soldier. 2 Timothy 2:4